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Bianca Knows Best … And Helps a Third Wheel

Dear Bianca,

I’ve been the third wheel in my best friend’s relationship for several months. When she got her new boyfriend, he seemed great — easygoing, kind of funny, and not too shabby-looking.

But after a few months, he moved in with her, and now they’re inseparable, so anytime my friend and I have plans to go out, he has to come along. He’s really started to get on my nerves. He’s not very smart and he often doesn’t get the music, politics, or cultural topics my friend and I discuss.

I’ve tried hinting to my girlfriend that we need to have ladies’ nights sans the boyfriend, but she says that he’ll sit at home and mope if he’s not at her side 24/7. Not only does this annoy me and drive me away from my friend, but it’s also a really toxic relationship for her. When I’ve suggested that she should ditch him, she gets mad at me. What else can I do?

— The Third Wheel

Dear Third Wheel,

Suggesting to your friend that she leave her boyfriend, whether you like him or not, is the wrong thing to do. Unless he’s physically or mentally abusive, she doesn’t need an intervention from you. Doing so will only push her further away from you. When my friends used to express disapproval of my past relationships, I stopped hanging out with those friends. I think most people would do the same.

On the other hand, you don’t want to be stuck hanging out with the douchebag boyfriend all the time. Surely, there’s some activity you and your girlfriend can do that won’t attract lonely boy. For example, suggest a day-long shopping spree or a Sex in the City marathon at your place.

You can always do something else — like hitting up a coffeehouse or movie — once he’s out of the picture. If the leech still insists on joining you, you could start bringing up female stuff; periods and/or yeast infections are perfect topics. Maybe then he’ll get the hint that his girlfriend and you need some serious girl time. If he sticks around through all that menstrual-cycle talk, maybe he’s not such a bad guy after all.


Got a problem? E-mail Bianca at bphillips@memphisflyer.com.

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Chip Shots: Who’s Getting Ahead in Politics, and Who Isn’t?

Chip Forrester of Nashville, the longtime treasurer
of the state Democratic Party and its former director, has been hobnobbing in
Memphis this week with local members of the party’s state executive committee.
Forrester wants to be the successor to the luckless Gray Sasser, who
signaled his intention to retire after an electoral season in which the GOP’s
John McCain easily won Tennessee’s electoral votes and, more ominously,
the Republicans took over both houses of the legislature.

The election of a new chairman will take place after next month’s inauguration
ceremonies. So far, Forrester has one opponent, Charles Robert Bone of
Gallatin, who apparently has support from Sasser and assorted other members of
the party establishment – most of whom were backers of Hillary Clinton
during last year’s contested Tennessee primary. For his part, Forrester was an
early booster of Barack Obama and is running, as did the president-elect,
on a platform of change.

(UPDATE: Forrester, who needs the votes of 37 committee members to become chairman, said Tuesday night he already had 38 lined up.)

  • Something about that name
    Chip. Another ambitious bearer of that name is former Memphis resident Chip
    Saltsman
    , now of Nashville. Saltsman, a former chairman of the state
    Republican Party, more recently managed the presidential campaign of former
    Arkansas governor Mike Huckabee, whose maverick candidacy came very near
    to taking off after his win in the Iowa caucuses earlier this year.

    Saltsman is still aiming high. Now he aspires to chair the national Republican
    Party, and, to that end, has answered a cattle call from two conservative
    GOP-friendly groups, Americans for Tax Reform and the American Conservative
    Union, who have summoned Saltsman and other chairmanship aspirants to Washington
    this week for a three-day series of meetings.

    Among others planning to show up and be vetted will be

    South Carolina Republican Party chairman Katon Dawson, Michigan GOP
    chairman Saul Anuzis, and former Maryland lieutenant governor Michael
    Steele
    .

  • Tre Hargett of Memphis, the former Republican leader in the state House
    of Representatives, never commanded a majority in the state House, as will state
    Rep. Jason Mumpower of Bristol, who was named this week by his fellow
    Republicans to be their majority leader – a position that will almost certainly
    become that of Speaker when the General Assembly convenes in January.

    But, according to informed sources in Nashville, Hargett has a better than even
    chance of replacing Riley Darnell as Secretary of State when the two
    chambers of the legislature meet in January to elect someone for that position,
    as well as for two other state constitutional offices, those of comptroller and
    treasurer.

    These positions, elected by simple majority of the full Assembly, have been held
    by de facto Democratic appointees for generations, but Republicans now hold a
    five-vote edge in the state Senate and a one-vote margin in the House. That
    six-point majority insures that the GOP will fill all three positions.

    Hargett’s chief competition for the job, which pays $180,000 annually, is former
    state Senator Jim Bryson of Brentwood, who was prevailed on by his fellow
    Republicans to run as a sacrificial-lamb candidate for governor in 2006 against
    incumbent Democrat Phil Bredesen. To do so, Bryson had to give up his
    safe Senate seat, and can collect at least some votes on an I.O.U. basis.

    One candidate who fell by the wayside in the Secretary of State race is outgoing
    state Senator Rosalind Kurita of Clarksville, whose narrow primary
    victory over fellow Democrat Tim Barnes was nullified by the state
    Democratic committee, ostensibly on grounds of voting irregularities but
    actually, many observers think, as punishment for her decisive vote in 2007 to
    make Republican Ron Ramsey of Blountville the Senate speaker and
    lieutenant governor.

    Ramsey’s choice for Secretary of State had been Kurita, who conducted an
    unsuccessful write-in campaign with GOP support and donated to Republican Party
    coffers in the general election, but she withdrew from consideration after
    failing to garner enough support elsewhere.

  • “The issue is dead for now. It would take a Hail Mary pass, and I don’t see that
    happening.” That was the assessment as the week began of city councilman Jim
    Strickland
    , the original sponsor this year of a resolution to liberalize
    residency requirements for Memphis police.

    The issue, eventually presented in modified form by councilman Reid Hedgepeth,
    was defeated two weeks ago by a 7-6 margin, with the council’s blacks voted
    against it and the whites voting for it. Vigorous efforts by proponents to bring
    about a change of mind, culminating in compromise proposals last week and a
    make-nice collective church attendance by the full council on Sunday, came to
    naught.

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    Remembering the Alamo — Plaza, That Is

    2d19/1242158116-alamoplazapostcard.jpg Hard to believe, but in the early 1930s, a Texas businessman named B. Lee Torrance visited Memphis and told a reporter, “[Your city] has the most careful drivers I ever saw. They sure obey the speed limit, too.”

    Based on that observation, I think we can safely say that: 1) Mr. Torrance was insane, or 2) Memphis drivers have sure changed a heckuva lot since the early 1930s.

    At any rate, for other reasons that we may never know, Torrance decided that the Bluff City seemed to be a “good business town,” and so he decided Memphis should be the next link in his nationwide chain of Alamo Plaza Hotel Courts. After all, as he explained, “If people are speeding through town, they won’t be able to see my tourist courts.”

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    Bring on the Hotness

    Now that Thanksgiving is over, Christmas is right around the corner. Then there’s New Year’s, MLK, and Valentine’s Day.

    They’ll be here sooner than you think.

    We mention this because our annual Hotties issue also coincides each year with Valentine’s Day.

    We’re currently soliciting nominations for the issue, beginning now and running until mid- to late-January.

    Please email hottienoms@memphisflyer.com with your nominee’s name, a little bit about them, a way to get in touch with them such as their phone number and email address, as well as, and this is very important, a picture. Of them.

    We’re not trying to be all superficial, but the issue is called The Hottie Issue after all.

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    FROM MY SEAT: Tigers Go Bowling with Sixth Win of Season

    Say this for
    University of Memphis football coach Tommy West: he knows how to close a regular
    season. His Tigers beat Tulane Saturday afternoon at the Liberty Bowl, 45-6, to
    finish West’s eighth season with a record of 6-6. The victory marked the fifth
    consecutive year Memphis has won its regular-season finale, a streak unmatched
    since 1966-70. Better yet, the win clinched a bowl berth for Memphis, the
    program’s fifth trip to college football’s postseason in the last six years (and
    three more than the program had seen before West’s arrival in 2001).

    The ghosts of
    Woody Hayes and Bear Bryant are grinding their teeth over a 6-6 team heading to
    a bowl game (and searching for a celestial punching bag at the notion that 68
    teams deserve such a trip). Nonetheless, the 2008 Tigers are a pretty decent
    story. A team that loses its first three games, then sees its top three
    quarterbacks fall to injury should not be scheduling practices in December. But
    with a group of seniors who have experienced late-season rallies before, and a
    coach who recognizes every Conference USA game as a potential win, these Tigers
    took advantage of mismatches when they could — which included the likes of
    Nicholls State and a depleted Tulane squad — to earn a 13th game. No apologies
    necessary to critics, living or dead.

    • The Tiger
    program will never again see the likes of DeAngelo Williams, the tailback who
    rushed for more than 6,000 yards before jaunting off to the NFL’s Carolina
    Panthers (for whom he scored four touchdowns Sunday in a win over Green Bay).
    But if we’re lucky enough to be here, we should resolve to check in on Brandon
    Patterson in the year 2028. Last week, the Tigers’ senior safety was named an
    Academic All-America by ESPN. A year ago, Patterson became the first Memphis
    player in 15 years to earn such a prestigious national honor. He now is the only
    Tiger player ever to earn the honor twice. Patterson is holding down a 3.7 GPA
    as a graduate student and will earn his master’s degree in finance later this
    month. He’s been an outstanding football player, too, a three-year starter with
    almost 200 career tackles. Best of all, he — like Mr. Williams — embodies the
    class and decency Tommy West sells as the foundation of his program. Something
    tells me that in 2028, Brandon Patterson will be recognized for achievements
    that dwarf his gridiron exploits.

    • I took in
    Saturday’s game from the stands with my family, which led me to a few thoughts
    on the ongoing stadium debate. For those who gripe about the comfort of sitting
    on aluminum bleachers, I’d point them to Oxford, Fayetteville, or Knoxville,
    where thousands upon thousands sit on the same hard benches, one Saturday after
    the next, and a good deal further away from the action than were the 15,012 in
    attendance at the Liberty Bowl last weekend. The stadium’s concourse may be a
    bit narrow for the all-too-rare sellout crowd. But there was plenty of elbow
    room at concession stands for the Tigers’ home finale. (Consider: The combined
    attendance of the Tigers’ last two games would barely fill half the stadium,
    which has a capacity of 62,000.)

    Bottom line:
    Liberty Bowl Memorial Stadium is too large for the Memphis Tiger program. From
    the lowest days of the Rip Scherer era to the heights of Williams’ prime,
    attendance at Tiger football games maxes out around 45,000 and tends to drop no
    lower than 15,000. But even with 45,000 in the stands, the stadium is left with
    considerable empty space, which gives a poor impression, particularly as the
    stadium sits in the middle of a metropolitan regional destination. And when only
    15,000 show up? It gives the impression a minor-league outfit is borrowing the
    home of a larger enterprise.

    I continue to
    vacillate between the virtues of an on-campus facility for the Tigers, or a new
    stadium at the Fairgrounds. But I’ve come to firmly believe that the best move
    for the football program — and its many loyal boosters and fans — is a
    dramatically smaller stadium. If nothing else, place some value on a Memphis
    Tiger football ticket. Make them harder to come by in a market where the
    program’s niche is smaller than many would like to believe. I’ll leave it to the
    big-time developers to decide where the stadium belongs. But the day must come
    when the most striking feature of a U of M football game isn’t entire sections
    of empty seats (or benches).

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    Justin Timberlake and Jessica Biel Do Memphis

    From JustJared at buzznet: Justin Timberlake and actress girlfriend Jessica Biel enjoyed dinner with his family on Saturday (November 29) in his hometown of Memphis.

    Mr. J.T.’s mother Lynn Harless and his stepdad Paul were seen making a stop at a local art gallery. Justin and Paul must get along well–they both wore William Rast jeans (his fashion line)!

    Later on, Justin and Jessica were seen taking her pitbull Tina out for a little play time at a local park. At one point, Justin lay down in the leaves and Jessica snapped a photo of him.

    For more, including 47 photos, go here.
    Editor’s note: Looks like Tom Lee Park to us, and maybe the Jay Etkin Gallery. What do you think?