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Lisa C. Hickman Explores Faulkner’s Death in New Book

A 40-or-so-minute drive will take you to the site where William Faulkner died some 60 years ago in Byhalia, Mississippi. It’s a gas station now, but in its place once stood the Leonard Wright Sanatorium, a reputable place but one stigmatized with its association for treating alcoholism. Perhaps, that is why when Faulkner died in 1962, the Memphis Press-Scimitar, The Commercial Appeal, and The New York Times reported that the author died in Oxford, his death shrouded in shame and unasked questions even today. 

For her part, though, with her Between Grief and Nothing: The Passions, Addictions and Tragic End of William Faulkner (McFarland), author Lisa C. Hickman examines, in great detail, those final moments of Faulkner’s life and the context surrounding it — his emotional instability, mental health, various addictions, and a culture ill-prepared to address these issues.

Hickman has been fascinated with Faulkner since taking a single-author course on him as a sophomore in college. “Faulkner’s literature is always relevant because it’s a window into human nature,” she says. She later earned her Ph.D. at Ole Miss with a concentration in Faulkner and Southern literature. “Then, I met and became good friends with novelist Joan Williams, a Memphian who’d been in a relationship with Faulkner. That opened an entirely different window. His literature and personal life converged.”

Meeting Williams also led her to writing The Romance of Two Writers about the two writers’ affair, and through it, Hickman learned of Faulkner’s “rich interior world,” which she was able to delve into deeper in her most recent release. “These extramarital affairs he sought were another form of addiction, and aspects of them were more imagined than realized, yet they kept him going,” Hickman says. “His wife, Estelle, is fascinating. A brilliant, artistic woman who had her own struggles. She actually was a patient at Wright’s before her husband.” 

“I’d actually walked around the site a couple of times, once with Joan Williams, so I was familiar with it,” she adds of Wright’s Sanatorium. “There were dilapidated, small scattered cabins. … The grounds were eerie, otherworldly. Two metal lawn chairs remained positioned side by side under a favorite oak tree. You couldn’t help but imagine the patients wandering around in various states of dishevelment. Honestly, it was a bit like a Stephen King novel. I was fortunate to interview some of the last close associates of the sanatorium, and the family who purchased the property were careful guardians, photographing what was left of the original structures and preserving the records, documents they discovered under a stairwell.”

Between Grief and Nothing includes these interviews and more, including previously undisclosed medical details. “Many of my sources are new and original — and hopefully reaching a readership outside of academia,” she says.

Hickman also says that readers don’t need to be familiar with Faulkner’s life or works to read her book. “I wrote this book with a general readership in mind focusing on a propulsive narrative. … There’s this collusion — between his genius and struggles — and while his creative powers aren’t widely shared, his struggles are widely relatable.”

“I often was stuck by the mindset toward alcohol and drug addiction during Faulkner’s time. Treatment was a band-aid until the next episode. While therapy has come a long way since then, we’re still living in a culture ripe with addictions.”

To celebrate the release of her Between Grief and Nothing, Novel will host a Meet the Author event with Hickman on Saturday, February 8th, at 2 p.m. You can order a signed copy here.

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CannaBeat: State Bills Would Allow Recreational, Medical Cannabis

Cannabis would be legal for recreational and medical uses in Tennessee next year if the Tennessee General Assembly passes either of two similar bills filed by Democrats this week. 

One bill is called the Tennessee Cannabis Act. The other is called the Pot for Potholes Act

The first is from state Rep. Larry Miller (D-Memphis) and state Sen. Jeff Yarbro (D-Nashville). The second is from state Rep. Aftyn Behn (D-Nashville) and state Sen. Heidi Campbell (D-Nashville).  

Both bills allow all Tennessee adults over 21 to possess, use, and transport small amounts of cannabis for personal use. Both would allow cannabis retailers to sell all THC products. They would also allow Tennesseans to grow up to 12 cannabis plants for personal use. 

Both bills would tax cannabis sales at 15 percent on the state level and allow local governments to add a 5 percent tax to local sales of cannabis. State budget experts have not yet estimated how much revenue those tax figures might bring.  

A bill filed last year would have established a medical marijuana program in the state. Tennesseans would have been only eligible to buy cannabis products if they had a diagnosis from a specific list of medical conditions. That law would have made the total state marijuana tax 10 percent and a local tax up to 3 percent. State budget experts predicted that plan would have yielded tax revenues of more than $48 million annually.    

The new cannabis plans differ in how revenues are spent. The broader Tennessee Cannabis Act specifies only that about 15 percent of the money go to state agencies to run the cannabis program. The rest would go into he state’s general fund and spent at the discretion of lawmakers. 

The Pot for Potholes fund earmarks 75 percent of all cannabis tax revenues for the state highway fund. Most of the rest of the money would go to Tennessee’s 95 counties. A remaining 5 percent of the funds would go to state agencies to manage the program.

The bills seem the same in almost every other way. Both would: 

• Regulate cannabis packaging. Products for sale would have to be sold in child-resistant packaging, carry a new, universal cannabis symbol, and show the total amount of THC in the product. 

• Cap personal possession at 60 grams of marijuana, but not more than 15 grams of concentrate 

• Allow private cultivation of 12 plants in a private area that is locked and not visible from a public place.

• Allow a parent or guardian to give cannabis products to their children for a medical condition, excluding smokeable products. 

 • Allow for the commercial grow and sale of the product. 

• Allow for the possession of marijuana-related paraphernalia such as water pipes, etc. (with exceptions) 

• Allow employers to prohibit the use of cannabis products in the workplace. 

• Allow employers to discipline workers for cannabis use.

• Allow employers to consider cannabis use in its hiring process (with certain restrictions).

• Allow personal cannabis users and growers to buy firearms. 

• Cannabis possession or use would not be grounds to deny a lease to a potential residential tenant.

• Cannabis use would not be allowed in a motor vehicle, a watercraft on public waters, or in a public place.      

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State Dems Work to Hold Elon Musk Accountable in Tennessee

Posted to X this week by Elon Musk

State Democrats are taking aim at Memphis businessman Elon Musk’s activities involving government benefits and sensitive government data at the federal level. 

House Democratic Leader Rep. Karen Camper (D-Memphis) asked Tennessee General Attorney Jonathan Skrmetti and the District Attorneys General Conference to investigate Musk’s “potential unauthorized access and misuse of sensitive federal data.”  

Meanwhile, state Sen. Jeff Yarbro (D-Nashville) and state Rep. Jason Powell (D-Nashville) filed a bill to “hold people accountable for unlawfully interfering with the distribution of government benefits that Tennessee families rely on.”

Last year, Musk’s company xAI chose Memphis as the site of his massive artificial intelligence facility. The site powers Grok, the AI program from X.  

Camper on sensitive data

Camper sent a formal letter to Skrmetti and the conference Tuesday to investigate press reports of Musk’s activities through his new Department of Government Efficiency (DOGE). Report say Musk and his office have wide-ranging access to federal payment systems and personnel files of government employees. Camper said these activities could cause data breaches of sensitive information affecting Tennesseans and Tennessee-based federal employees. 

Specifically, Camper wants the AG to review: 

• If any data on Tennesseans of Tennessee-based employees has been accessed or extracted in DOGE’s activities.

• Where is this data now stored and who has custody over it?

• What is the chain of custody for such data?

• Has any data been given to any agency prohibited from handling such information? 

“Additionally, considering Mr. Musk’s public statements regarding his desire to see the United States default on its debts and his history of data misuse for personal gain, it is imperative that he be deposed regarding his intent and purpose in accessing these systems,” Camper wrote in her letter. “The risk of a ‘shock default’ — where the U.S. could default without actionable warning to Congress — poses a serious national security and economic threat that must not be ignored.”

Also, Camper said if Musk was not authorized to access federal Office of Personnel Management (OPM) systems, including disciplinary records, this could allow federal workers grounds to contest or block disciplinary actions. 

The STOP ELON Act

The Trump administration also caused a national shockwave of confusion last week as it paused federal funding to nearly every agency served by the federal government. This meant funds to any government contractor, like nonprofits or research groups, was halted, though they rely on that funding to continue work. 

This policy decision came from Musk’s DOGE. President Donald Trump reversed course on the matter after nationwide concerns on how business could get done. 

For this, Tennessee lawmakers Yarbro and Powell introduced the Shielding Tennesseans from Oligarchic Power & Eliminating Lawless Obstruction of Necessities Act  (The STOP ELON Act). 

The bill would create criminal penalties and a private right of civil action against any individual who obstructs or denies access to federal, state, or local government benefits, including Social Security payments, Medicare benefits, grants, and other financial distributions.

“If Elon Musk illegally hurts Tennesseans, he should go to jail regardless of being a trillionaire or whatever and regardless of whether he’s got a permission slip from the president,” Yarbro said in a statement. “Whether through malice or incompetence, if he unlawfully blocks our citizens from getting their Social Security checks or reimbursement from Medicaid or Medicare, his vast wealth should be on the table to compensate the people who get hurt.”

Rep. Powell emphasized the intent of the bill is to prevent abuses of power and ensure accountability, regardless of a person’s wealth or connections. 

The law would put fines and prison time on those who would obstruct lawful government payments. Obstructions of benefits valued at $1,000 or less would be a Class A misdemeanor. As the amount of benefits go up, so do the fines and penalties, up to $250,000 and prison time. Those harmed would be given a legal pathway to sue for damages in state courts.   

“Tennesseans who work hard and play by the rules should never have to worry about a billionaire meddling in their financial security,” said Powell in a statement. “People like Elon Musk need to understand that they are not invincible and the STOP ELON Act makes it crystal clear — no one is above the law. If you interfere with a person’s rightful benefits, you will be held accountable.”

It’s not yet known how state Republicans will respond to Camper’s request or the STOP ELON Act. However, House Majority Leader Rep. William Lamberth (R-Portland) reposted this from Musk on X Tuesday.

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Memphis Flyer Podcast Feb. 6, 2025: Meet the 20<30

This week we introduce Memphis to your future leaders with our annual 20<30 issue. You can read about our readers’ and staff’s picks for Memphis’ best and brightest here.

Of our 20 honorees, 19 chose to do Zoom interviews with journalist Chris McCoy (Noah Miller opted to do his interview via email), so on this week’s podcast, you can hear them talk in their own words about who they are, what they do, and why they do it.

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Beale Street Music Fest On Pause This Year

The Beale Street Music Festival (BSMF) will not return this summer but leaders say they are working to stage a festival in 2026.

Memphis In May International Festival (MIM) formally announced the news on Facebook Wednesday evening. Leaders there cited “major challenges since” Covid as one reason for the pause. But they said all other MIM events are a go this year.

Here’s what they said online:

“The Beale Street Music Fest has been paused for Summer 2025.

“The festival industry itself has seen major challenges since COVID but is currently seeing lots of new trends and opportunities that would allow music festivals to continue thriving in the years ahead.

“The pause on BSMF is temporary as it allows us to take a step back and reimagine the event to ensure we are providing the same premier experience for festival attendees as they have received in the past.

“So, while there will not be a BSMF this year, we are focusing on our other signature Memphis in May International Festival events which are the World Championship Barbecue Cooking Contest (May 14th-17th in Liberty Park) and the Great American River Run (Memorial Day Weekend).

“Plans are already underway for the BSMF to return in summer 2026 with a greater impact to the city of Memphis.

“The Memphis In May International Festival is the only festival founded by volunteers to celebrate the city of Memphis and all the good things this city has to offer, and we plan to continue that tradition for years to come. #TeamMemphisInMay

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Public Seeks Answers Surrounding Events at Crosstown Concourse

Questions remain after several social media users reported an incident at Global Cafe in Crosstown Concourse Tuesday.

Memphis Police Department (MPD) officers were called to the site. The large police presence and flashing police lights attracted attention.

This left many wondering what — in general — was going on. Videos taken at the scene leave more questions for some who say MPD unnecessarily escalated the situation. Others say the people on the scene yelling at police escalated the situation.

The situation started when an employee at Global Cafe asked Rachael Spriggs to leave. When she refused, the employee called police and alerted Crosstown security. The scene spilled out into the street in front of Crosstown where a crowd shouted at police and filmed them. The situation got physical, pepper spray was released, and people went to jail.

Neither Crosstown Concourse nor Global Cafe immediately responded for comment.

The Equity Alliance, a Tennessee-based nonprofit organization, posted they were aware of the situation involving Spriggs, the agency’s Director of Powerbuilding.

“We are actively gathering details and will provide updates as we learn more. Stay tuned for more information,” the post said.

Equity Alliance via Facebook

Spriggs went live on Facebook Tuesday in a video captioned “Global Cafe in Crosstown is a good idea in theory but they are racist as sh*t!”

In the video, Spriggs and an employee were having a verbal altercation. As Spriggs speaks to the camera the employee tells her she needs to leave or he would call the cops.

“Call the cops, call the cops – I’m fine with you calling the cops,” Spriggs said. “I’m fine with that.”

The employee then said Spriggs was not welcome there, to which Spriggs said he had no power. Another person can be heard saying that Spriggs was escalating the situation, to which she said she wanted him to call the police so she could “bring attention to his racist behavior.”

Spriggs then told viewers that the police had been called. Minutes later Spriggs showed the police showing up, who asked her to come outside. She then said that the officers informed her that “they wanted to bar her from Crosstown.”

A Crosstown officer told her she was being barred for “being disruptive” after “refusing to leave the establishment.” The officer said the employee had the right since Global Cafe is a private business.

As Spriggs continued to speak on her live, she said ‘aye don’t touch me, mane,’ as an MPD officer pulled on her jacket. The phone was dropped, and picked up by police officers. Before the live was ended, Spriggs asked why she couldn’t have her phone to which an officer told her she was being detained.

According to a post made by Spriggs Wednesday, as she was being detained “more officers arrived on the scene and completely escalated the situation.” She said officers “slammed [her] legs in the door and yanked [her] from the car.”

The post also said that officers threw her “disabled friend onto her back.” The woman has been identified as community organizer Shahidah Jones.

Facebook user Brittney King posted a live video where you can see a crowd form around Spriggs, who was in MPD custody.

An officer then touches Jones’ arm to which onlookers tell the officer to get their hands off her. A woman tries to intervene to which an officer shoves her, pushing both her and Jones to the ground. 

The woman recording the video repeatedly yells that Jones is disabled.

“Why would you jump on this disabled woman? Why would you do that?” she yells. “What the hell?”

UPDATE:

Spriggs went on to post early Wednesday morning saying that she had not patronized the business in months, yet “did not want to make a statement because of my support for their mission.” She also said this treatment was “not consistent among the other employees.”

The Official Black Lives Matter Memphis Chapter is raising funds for those arrested. A post from user Allyn Smith said that bail had been set at $4,000 for community members who were “wrongfully and arrested and publicly vilified.”

Amber Sherman, a local political strategist, posted a video on Instagram saying that police are trying to charge those involved with assaulting an officer. The caption said four local organizers were arrested including General Sessions Court Clerk Tami Sawyer.

“You can clearly see the situation was escalated by police grabbing on people, pushing people – things they do not have to do,” Sherman said. “Our demand is for all the charges to be dismissed against everyone who was arrested. Two, boycott Global Cafe and boycott Crosstown Concourse.”

Sherman asked that people call the restaurant to let them know they’re boycotting because they’re “anti-Black” and “call police on people and help escalate situations that end in violence for Black people.”

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GOP Lawmakers Want to Ban Undocumented Students from Schools

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In the latest overt challenge to Supreme Court precedent, Tennessee Republican lawmakers have introduced a bill that would allow school districts to deny undocumented students from enrolling. The bill runs counter to the 1982 U.S. Supreme Court Plyler v. Doe decision, which entitled all children to public education despite immigration status. 

The bill, introduced Tuesday by Tennessee House Majority Leader Rep. William Lamberth (R-Portland) and state Sen. Bo Watson (R-Hixson), would directly challenge more than 40 years of precedent by allowing local education authorities, like school boards, to bar students without legal citizenship from attending public schools.

In an accompanying statement, Watson and Lamberth say the bill intentionally “seeks to challenge” the court decision, citing the cost of public education.

“The flood of illegal immigrants in our country has put an enormous drain on American tax dollars and resources. Our schools are the first to feel the impact,” Lamberth said. “Tennessee communities should not have to suffer or pay when the federal government fails to secure our borders. Our obligation is to ensure a high-quality education for legal residents first.”

Watson’s comments Tuesday similarly focused on the impact on public school funding. 

“Our education system has limited resources, which should be prioritized for students who are legally present in the country,” Watson said. “An influx of illegal immigration can strain LEAs and put significant pressure on their budgets. This bill empowers local governments to manage their resources more effectively and builds upon the legislative action taken during the special session to address illegal immigration at the local level.”

The bill follows a four-day special legislative session that focused on increasing immigration enforcement and a $447 million school voucher plan. According to the legislature’s estimates, the voucher plan will directly remove $47 million from public school education and that amount could continue to grow. 

Their arguments echo those of Rep. Gino Bulso (R-Brentwood), who introduced the “Tennessee Reduction of Unlawful Migrant Placement” or “TRUMP” Act in January, which would, among other things, require the parents of children without full citizenship to pay tuition to attend public schools. At the time, Bulso said the bill was to conserve public resources for citizens, but he also noted that such legislation can be a “disincentive for those who are considering coming into the country illegally from coming to Tennessee.”

Casey Bryant, founder and executive director of Advocates for Immigration Rights of Memphis, said that the bill is far from being enacted despite the momentum from Tennessee lawmakers who favor penalizing and deporting those without citizenship.

“I think there’s always been people who were trying to do this, and they’ve been just chomping at the bit to make it happen,” Bryant said of Tennessee lawmakers Tuesday. “Even if it gets through the Tennessee General Assembly — which will be shameful for the state — it won’t go into effect for a long time, because this gonna be wrapped up in years of litigation.” 

As an immigration attorney, Bryant says the litany of recent proposed policy changes at the state and federal level have already had a cooling effect on the immigrant community, despite their citizenship status, even before the aggressive policies take place. 

“I mean, people are not going out at all,” Bryant said of immigrant communities in Memphis, noting a number of people have been missing work out of fear of ICE raids. 

“There is a lot of fear, and it really is sending a message across the land that this isn’t a safe place for people and they’re going to be penalized for who they are or what they look like, even people who have lawful status in the United States,” he added. 

The proposal is consistent with Tennessee Republican lawmakers and Gov. Bill Lee responding to President Donald Trump’s edict for state and local governments to crackdown on immigration enforcement in recent weeks. It also highlights a growing pattern of Tennessee leadership’s willingness to push legally contentious policies with the intent of hashing it out in court. 

Sen. Raumesh Akbari (D-Memphis) condemned the bill as a distraction from policies that might address public school funding and fraught with legal trouble. 

“House Bill 793 isn’t just cruel — it’s unconstitutional. This isn’t a policy proposal; it’s a lawsuit, designed to deny children their right to an education and waste taxpayer dollars. Every child, no matter their background, deserves a public education,” Akbari said.

During a victory lap press conference at the end of the special session, Lamberth indicated that Republican leadership would continue to be “bold” enough to introduce bills likely to face constitutional challenges, citing an ongoing Supreme Court challenge to the state’s gender-affirming care ban for minors. 

Sen. London Lamar (D-Memphis) said the policy contributes to a recent pattern of biased education decisions in Tennessee, citing local book bans that target works written by people of color, the voucher bill that opponents believe will worsen disparities in education and ongoing financial peril at Tennessee State University, the state’s oldest HBCU.

“This bill doesn’t even try to hide its prejudiced intent,” Lamar said. “Like school vouchers, which were designed in response to desegregation, this legislation cherry-picks which students deserve opportunity. We’ve seen this before, and we won’t let them drag us backward.”

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Why Aren’t Big-Time Acts Coming to Memphis?

If you live in Memphis, you’ve likely heard phrases like “home of the blues,” “heart of soul music,” and “birthplace of rock-and-roll.” Ask anybody; even Google AI insists (so it must be true). Yet Memphians have also seen their favorite artist skip over FedExForum for a tour stop in Little Rock. Despite the rich musical talent and history, Memphis is not a popular destination for national tours. Last-minute cancellations are not uncommon either, as seen just a few years ago with Drake and Moneybagg Yo. Still, locals pride themselves on a vibrant and historical music scene, which is undeniably true. Stax Records, Royal Studios, the Memphis Drum Shop, Easley McCain Recording, Sun Studio — the list goes on. Online lists of the nation’s distinguished music cities frequently rank Memphis in the top 10. But, over the past couple of decades, Memphis has resembled a black hole in the major touring circuit. If asked why, artists would likely say it’s not personal, just business. 

Simply put, ticket sales here are unpredictable. Memphis has a reputation as a “walk-up” city, meaning tickets are typically bought as a last-ditch effort instead of far in advance. This could be related to Memphis’ relatively low socioeconomic level. This is not to say Memphis has no appetite for live music. Just look around: Music is everywhere. There are roughly 60 locations within Memphis city limits that provide live music and entertainment, and these locations would not be paying musicians without their ability to attract an audience. 

Last December, a partnership between national entertainment agency Live Nation and Crosstown Concourse spawned the construction of a new Memphis venue. Sitting right next to the Concourse, the 1,500-seat venue is expected to host roughly 100 events a year, ranging from comedy to corporate meetings to concerts. Similar types of events can be seen at The Green Room at Crosstown Arts or The Crosstown Theater, albeit with smaller crowds. According to a press release, the new venue is projected to bring more than 150 music industry jobs to Memphis, with base starting salaries of $20/hour, (theoretically) filling a Nashville-sized hole in Memphis’ professional music market. The press release steers clear of this comparison; rather, their plan is to “honor Memphis’ rich musical heritage while filling a key gap in the market, providing a platform for artists eager to perform in the city.” Here, in this almost-mission statement, lies the mysterious “black hole” of live music in Memphis. 

By filling a market gap, Live Nation means providing a more “legitimate” venue for big artists to schedule shows. But what about all the other larger venues in Memphis? There’s Minglewood Hall, Memphis Botanic Garden’s Radian Amphitheater, FedExForum, and even smaller locations like Lafayette’s Music Room that have boasted plenty of national acts. Is this “gap” due to a lack of venues, or is it a lack of artists’ interest? The latter seems more likely. But Live Nation’s massive list of nationwide artists likely bolsters their confidence to “fill the gap.” This is what Sherman Willmott, founder of Shangri-La Projects and local music expert, feels the public should be focusing on.

“I think the lede here … is not the venue; it’s Live Nation booking. They’re filling a big empty hole that started with the death of Bob Kelley. Over that time period of the last 25 to 30 years, there’s been no … full-service promotion in town,” Willmott says. Bob Kelley, booker and promoter of Mid-South Concerts, died in 1998. The booking world since then has become “monopolistic. … There’s very few providers.” Memphis especially is not known for large booking agencies/promoters or music business infrastructure, hence the potential impact of Live Nation booking on the Memphis music scene. Memphians will have access to hundreds more artists in pop, indie, electronic, hip-hop, country, and more. Even if the venue starts out slow, Live Nation will likely be able to keep it afloat long enough to catch on. “There’s no one with deeper pockets,” says Willmott.

The introduction of Live Nation to Memphis could point the city in a new direction regarding industry jobs, but 150 of them is a lot to promise. Willmott says he does not “see them hiring that number of people,” drawing on comparisons between the Orpheum Theatre and The Green Room, each of which has a smaller staff. But if the new venue does hire that many, it’s possible for a larger music business market to open up in Memphis. 

Naturally, there are some fears and questions about a nationwide corporation like Live Nation (recently involved in an antitrust lawsuit) digging their claws into the Memphis music community. But Willmott points out the role of Crosstown Concourse in the new venue’s booking process: “Bookings at Crosstown are … between 70 and 90 percent local artists.” After all, Crosstown was designed to uplift the community arts, and events at The Green Room or Crosstown Theater do just that. Further, the vertical village supports education (Crosstown High School) and healthcare (Church Health). It is hard to imagine Crosstown wavering from this community-focused vision, even when working with a corporate giant like Live Nation.

Sure enough, things are changing around Memphis. RiverBeat Music Festival is back for its second year in a row, boasting an even bigger lineup of global artists as well as a surefire program of lively and talented local artists like Jombi and Lina Beach. Grind City Brewing Company and Barbian Entertainment just announced a new venue, Grind City Amp, boasting a max capacity of 4,500 and a deep backdrop of Downtown Memphis. The outdoor venue is set to open in the spring of 2026. Although Live Nation and Crosstown have not specified their venue’s opening date, there seems to be a new era of shows coming to Memphis. Let’s hope our favorite artists start showing up on the bills. 

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Celebrate Lunar New Year at the Agricenter

The Chinese lunar calendar attributes each year to an animal. This year’s is the wood snake, representing wisdom, renewal, and a time for transformation. And the Memphis Lunar New Year Fair is occurring jusssst in time for those ringing in the Lunar New Year.

Hosted by the Greater Memphis United Chinese Association and sponsored by the popular Chinese restaurant, Dim Sum King, the fair was created to give participants and their families a day full of fun festivities. “We want all the Memphis community to really get a feel of Lunar New Year because Lunar New Year is not just about the lunar calendar; it’s also about other traditions — the food, culture, and the people, like family getting together and interacting with each other,” says Effie Du, co-chair of the Memphis Lunar New Year Fair. 

This event was also intended to help people understand more about Asian culture. “It’s all about the people and the diversity, and seeing the culture and getting a feel of the Asian culture. That’s what we want to bring. It’s not just one thing. It’s a whole package of Lunar New Year, and the diversity and culture that comes with it,” says Du. If you plan on attending, be prepared to be amazed by many cultural performances, such as martial arts demonstrations and the dragon dance, which is a traditional dance said to bless the new year with good fortune and to ward off bad spirits. And feel free to indulge in a variety of Asian-inspired dishes from local food vendors, mahjong lessons, hands-on experience practicing calligraphy, and so much more.

The Memphis Lunar New Year Fair will only be here this Saturday from 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. with a general admission fee of $15 and free admission for children 10 years old and under. To learn more information about the upcoming fair and where to purchase tickets, visit memphislunarnewyear.com.  

Memphis Lunar New Year Fair, Agricenter International, 7777 Walnut Grove Road, Saturday, February 8, 10 a.m.-9 p.m., $15/general admission, free/children (10 and under). 

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Memphis Is My Boyfriend: A Teen’s Take on Dating

I’m a mom of four teenagers. An 11-year-old girl, twin 13-year-old boys, and a 16-year-old boy. And that 16-year-old is … DATING! This is a scary moment for me. Mostly because I know what “dating” looked like for me at 16. (We read and we don’t judge.) Nevertheless, I thought that this would be a great opportunity to hear about dating and Valentine’s Day from the perspective of a teenager. And now, here’s what my son has to say!

For teenagers, Valentine’s Day is a chance to celebrate your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been dating. As you have probably seen from most teenage rom-coms or from social media drama, Valentine’s Day can also be messy. 

In high school, there are tons of unique relationships and several types of couples. Some teens have been dating for only a few weeks, while others are approaching year three! There are some teenagers who struggle to start relationships because of their sexuality. Others struggle to keep relationships just because their partner loses interest and leaves them on “read.” Or some parents prohibit their teens from dating at all. Even if a couple may seem like they are going strong, it can come falling down.

Either way, dating and Valentine’s Day is a pivotal point for teens. Wherever they may be in their dating scene, here are a couple of things to keep in mind as a parent:

• Support your teen: You may not like who they’re dating, but support your teen and make sure they are doing well in their relationship. 

• Don’t embarrass your teen: It can be easy to bring up their flaws or messy habits, but it doesn’t feel good when you are getting embarrassed in front of your girlfriend or boyfriend.

• Offer advice, but don’t lecture: Talking down to someone and talking to them are two different things. You want to make sure that you are talking to teens about their relationship. Be wary of lecturing without giving them an opportunity to be active in the conversation. 

• Listen: Sometimes all teens want is for someone to listen. They may not even want advice, just someone to listen to their situation and understand them.

Luckily, I am in a healthy relationship. We have known each other for years and started dating only five months ago. My partner has to be one of the most enthusiastic and energetic people I have ever met. Whether it comes to the situationships in season seven of The Rookie or her cases at youth court, she always brings her energy to the table (unless she is hangry). Also, seeing her smile just brightens my day. I’ll never forget that. But here are a couple of points that I have learned from other successes and failures that I use to guide my relationship. Teenagers, take a pic of this:

• Communicate your boundaries: Make sure that you both are looking for the same or similar things in a relationship. Let them know up front what’s a “no-go.”

• Respect each other: Everyone deserves respect. In person and online!

• Consent, consent, consent: Ask permission for everything, even hugging and kissing.

• Don’t lie to your parents. Just be open and up front. They’re going to find out anyway. 

Now that we’ve got that out of the way, here are my plans for my very first Valentine’s Day.

I plan on taking my partner to Ciao Bella Italian Restaurant. Both of us are huge fans of Italian cuisine. With us being teens, we must factor in our parents. We aren’t fully independent, and we can’t just go sneaking out the window to a dinner date. So of course our parents will be there, but hopefully at a different table.

During dinner, I’ll present her with gifts. I know her pretty well. But I cannot afford front row seats to the next WWE Smackdown. And after the holiday season, my accounts aren’t overflowing. But fortunately, I love to make homemade/crafty gifts. I’ll be making an assortment of cards and flowers with a custom blanket that has her favorite celebrities on it (Eric Winter, Melissa O’Neil). In addition to that, I will be making a spray-painted sweatshirt with designs from Michael Jackson and Roman Reigns, a couple more of her favorite celebrities. 

Valentine’s Day as a teenager is a mix of excitement, nerves, and learning experiences. Whether it’s a first date, a longtime relationship, or just navigating the highs and lows of young love, it’s a time of growth. Remember, as parents, it isn’t your role to control the journey but to support, guide, and — most importantly — listen. 

Patricia Lockhart is a native Memphian who loves to read, write, cook, and eat. By day, she’s an assistant principal and writer, but by night … she’s asleep. Her son Aiden Lockhart is dating now!