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(We Can’t Imagine) A World Without Internet

Bank accounts, investment funds, appointments, bill pay, concert tickets, emails, streaming entertainment, home security systems, Uber rides, air travel — these are just a handful of things much of society manages today via the internet. So what happens if a site crashes, an app malfunctions, or the net goes down?

Some of you may have noticed that in our little corner of the World Wide Web, the Flyer site went kaput for a couple of days last week. On the backend, where we upload stories for online publishing, our team was welcomed with a “critical error” message, alternated with a “502 Bad Gateway.” Visitors to memphisflyer.com — or anyone clicking previously active links shared out on social media — found a mostly blank white screen with “internal error” in small letters across the top. For our editorial staff, not being information technology specialists in the least, these error messages were quite alarming. While we do produce a print product, we rely on the web to get fresh content — not found in the weekly hard copies — out to our readers throughout the week between the printed issues. Attempts to log on were fruitless, and we sat with hands tied, plugging away at interviews and stories in the meantime, until our IT gurus worked their troubleshooting magic behind the scenes to sort out the problem. It did get sorted, and all is well. But what was merely a blip in the big picture left me with lingering concerns — and not just about memphisflyer.com. 

The world has been digitized. We can — and do — purchase just about everything we need online. Our savings accounts are simply numbers on a screen when we sign in to our banking institutions’ websites or apps. Many businesses — from fast food to music venues to transit and much in between — have gone (or are going) cashless, meaning you need a card, connected to an account managed almost solely online. We read books online via electronic devices. Scan QR codes to gain entry into events. Navigate trips with pleasant automated voices telling us which way to turn. Post happy birthdays to Facebook. Order food and grocery deliveries. We effectively make entire transactions with the little black rectangles in our hands, via the internet. No check books, no paper tickets, no maps. We only need the invisible, inexplicable (to most) connection to the World Wide Web to complete a myriad of tasks. 

While researching for this column, I had no fewer than 10 tabs open to various pages — our work Slack channel, my Gmail account, the Google document in which I originally typed this text, the Flyer site, our website management hub, and several pages linked to stories that appeared with a search on this topic. This will age me, but I’m sure some of you can relate: I remember when researching for a school paper or college essay required a visit to the library or the scouring of a physical Encyclopedia Britannica set. (Did you know the final 32-volume printed edition was published in 2010? It now exclusively exists as an online encyclopedia.) Working on a short deadline with the Labor Day holiday, I’d have had to start my research much sooner, digging for relevant magazine articles, academic journals, and the like if I wanted to include any concrete stats or legitimate references. 

So, yes, the internet has allowed us the convenience of unlimited information — and access to literally anything — at our fingertips. But with some cost. We no longer have to retain information (or work very hard to get it). What film do I recognize that actor from? Google it. How long does it take to drive from Memphis to Fargo, North Dakota? Google it. Do turtles have a sense of smell? Hey, Google … And we’d be pretty screwed if our work disappeared into the internet ether or the numbers in our bank accounts were no longer accessible. 

According to statista.com, “As of April 2023, there were 5.18 billion internet users worldwide, which amounted to 64.6 percent of the global population.” 

A March 2021 Pew Research Center story, “About three-in-ten U.S. adults say they are ‘almost constantly’ online,” dives into our inadvertent reliance, noting two years ago that 85 percent of Americans “say they go online on a daily basis.” 

And people were skeptical about this many years before it took such a firm hold. A Kalamazoo Gazette staffer explored the topic on mlive.com in 2010 with “Are people too dependent on the Internet?” A Teen Ink contributor answered (sort of) in 2013 with “WE ARE TOO DEPENDENT ON THE INTERNET.” 

While I’m not a fan of all-caps, I think the then-teen writer wanted to make their stance clear. And, for better or worse, they weren’t wrong.

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In a Fishbowl

I count myself lucky to never have used a dating app. I’ve pretty much been in one long-term relationship or another since high school, with blips of single/dating life between, so I’ve never had a need to join in the endless swiping — or whatever y’all are doing — on the variety of such apps that have become prevalent in recent years. I’m also glad to have been part of the meeting-people-in-person generation, before the World Wide Web took over so many aspects of our lives, including finding our perfect (or even just an okay) match via a never-ending selection of head shots and “about me” blurbs.

Hearing single friends dish on dating disasters, inappropriate DMs, and all sorts of meet-up mishaps is mind-numbing. Is it really that bad out there? Out of curiosity — and yes, research for this very column — I recently joined a local Facebook dating group, which claims it’s “a place for women to protect and empower other women while warning each other of men who might be liars, cheaters, abusers, or exhibit any type of toxic or dangerous behavior.” I’d found that dozens of my female friends — single, married, or otherwise partnered-up — were members (along with more than 6,500 others), and, well, I wanted to see what was going on in there.

The premise is harmless enough. You can find out if you’re getting played and/or warn others about abusive, cheating, narcissistic, or generally “toxic” men. But the reality is a little more convoluted. At times, it’s like witnessing a Jerry Springer episode unfold, with accusations and below-the-belt jabs in the comments sections. And so many of the posts — which typically include a photo of the gentleman in question, along with the inquiry “[tea emoji] or [red flag emoji]?” — are published anonymously, appearing as a question from an unknown “Group member.” I understand there could be circumstances that would necessitate anonymity when it comes to this type of thing, but after a few days as a silent observer, it’s leaving a bad taste. Are some of these “group members” simply hoping to stir the pot? Are they jilted lovers trolling for others to bash their ex or to prevent him from moving forward in another relationship? Wanting to start drama with current girlfriends, partners, or potentials? Some women provide info or experiences without the added bashing — and offer positive responses and recommendations to go ahead and date the guy — but it seems the group’s intent has been stretched into some warped reality-TV type territory. Grab your popcorn and settle into this week’s shit show.

I remember the days when you had to actually talk to and hang around a person to figure out if they were a creep or not. Never did I have the option to screenshot someone’s dating profile and post a poll for reviews. “Talked twice and then he ghosted me.” “He was nice but wanted to cuddle all the time, and we only chatted for a couple weeks.” “Total sex addict.” “Says he doesn’t have kids but has two who have nothing to do with him.” “Lives with his mom.” You get the idea. It’s a weird time we’re living in.

This group frames a bleak picture of the overall dating landscape in Memphis — and not just for women. But if the couples highlighted in this week’s cover story are any indication, enduring love exists. Their stories show that love isn’t just the butterflies and rainbows (though it has its magical moments) but also the challenges and growth two people experience on their journey together, the development of patience and understanding that carries them through the years.

You can find your person if you hang in there — perhaps without even trying. You may very well cross paths in the unlikeliest of places, off screen, in real life — in line at the bank, browsing the aisles of Cash Saver, or sitting at the bar of your favorite restaurant. Maybe you were too shy to introduce yourself to the cutie you locked eyes with at Hollywood Feed but you can’t get them out of your noggin. Let us help! We’re reviving the Flyer’s “I Saw You” missed connections. Send yours to isawyou@memphisflyer.com, and we’ll publish them in an upcoming issue. True love could be right around the corner.