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RuPaul’s Drag Race’s Brooke Lynn Hytes at Club Spectrum

Brooke Lynn Hytes, known for competing in and finishing in second place on the 11th season of RuPaul’s Drag Race, helps Club Spectrum cap off Memphis Pride Fest celebrations with an exclusive drag show and meet-and-greet.

“I am very excited to be asked to be part of Spectrum’s celebrations,” says Hytes. “I feed off of the energy of the crowd, so a Pride appearance is the most fun for me. Expect lots of energy!”

The Canadian entertainer, who was also crowned Miss Continental in 2014 and who got her start performing with all-male drag ballet troupe Les Ballet Trockadero, wants to send the message that it’s important for everyone to be confident in who they are and to be comfortable in their own skin, no matter the obstacles.

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Brooke Lynn Hytes

“The LGBTQ+ community has come a long way, but we still have a long way to go,” says Hytes. “It is important to remember where we came from by celebrating Pride every year and reminding the children of the battles that have been fought for them and get them on board for the ones that are still to come.”

Hytes will meet with partiers during a VIP cocktail hour at 9 p.m., two hours before her performance, to take photos and spend time with her fans.

“Being able to meet the fans in person makes every second worth it,” says Hytes.

Club Spectrum will be hosting an Open Stage in their lounge for other kings and queens who would love to join Hytes in showing off their pride.

Pride After Party with Brooke Lynn Hytes, Club Spectrum Memphis, Saturday, September 28th, 8 p.m.-3 a.m., $15-$350.

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Memphis Gaydar News

Weekender: Queer Fest 2, Big Top Tease, Pride at The Pump

FRIDAY

Memphis Queer Fest 2, Day 2
Hi-Tone
7 p.m.
$10

7 p.m. — Hormonal Imbalance
7:45 p.m. — Nefarious Damn Thing
8:20 p.m. — Boyfriend
9:00 p.m. — Androids of Ex-Lovers
9:40 p.m.— Tom Violence
10:20 p.m. — Beg
11:00 p.m. — Waxjaw
11:40 p.m. — Risky Whispers

Big Top Tease: Volume II
Dru’s Place
9 p.m.
$10

“QCG Productions will be taking the stage at Dru’s Place for a night you will not want to miss! There will be circus acts, dance, fire, acro, and more! Come see the sexy side of the circus and have. Fun night with us!”

SATURDAY:


Memphis Queer Fest 2: Day 3 — Day Show

Midtown Crossing Grill
2 p.m.
$5

2 p.m. — TBA
2:40 p.m. — Party Pat
3:10 p.m. — Androids of Ex-Lovers
4 p.m. — Hardagay

Memphis Queer Fest 2: Day 3 — Evening Show
Hi Tone
6 p.m.
$10

6 p.m. — Dixie Dicks
6:40 p.m. — Three Brained Robot
7:20 p.m. — Lackluster
8:00 p.m. — Craigzlist Punks
8:20 p.m. — Hummin’ Bird
9:20 p.m. — Tears For The Dying
10 p.m.— Lovergurl
10:40 p.m. — Wick and the Tricks
11:10 p.m. — The Gloyholes

Stand-up schedule:
7:10 p.m. — Joe Griz
7:50 p.m. — Lisa Michaels
8:30 p.m. — Josh McLane
9:10 p.m. — Jay Jackson
9:50 p.m. — Vala Bird
10:30 p.m. — Hann Cowger
11 p.m. — MOTH MOTH MOTH


Smith7 Pants Tour Benefiting OUTMemphis

Rec Room
7 p.m.
18 and over show
$5 cover

XVII TRILL – hip hop
PXLS – video game cover band
Wicker – Chaos rock
Ruzka – Fallout rock
Super Smash Bros Tournament

Pride At The Pump Part 2: The Pink Party
The Pumping Station
10 p.m.
No cover

“The Pump started World Pride Month with an incredible party! Now, we’re doing it again as part of the month’s closing ceremonies! Come join us and show your true colors! Pink and/or Pride attire (from tank tops to tutus – to whatever) is encouraged!

“In honor of the occasion and our community, and by popular demand, Record Player is serving up an encore play of his Pride DJ set that had the place packed with people dancing and singing all night long as we opened Pride Month!”

A Night with the Legends! – End of PRIDE Month Extravaganza!
Club Spectrum
9 p.m.
$15-$200

“Six of Memphis’ biggest names hit the stage as legendary music stars to help throw the Biggest Goodbye to Pride month you’ve ever seen! This show will feature:

Freak Nasty as Tina Turner
Keleigh Klarke as Adele
Iris LeFluer as Madonna
Slade Kyle as Bella DuBalle
Aubrey Ombre as Mariah Carey
Jerred Price as Sir Elton John
Obsinity as Reba McEntire

SUNDAY:

Memphis Queer Fest 2: Day 4
Dru’s Place
3 p.m.
$7

3:00 p.m. — Queer Circus Girls
4:45 p.m. — Stay Fashionable
5:30 p.m. — Midtown Queer
6:20 p.m. — Exit Mouse

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Opinion The Last Word

Pride Month: A Conversation That Needs to Happen All Year

It’s Pride Month, and instead of using the month to celebrate the LGBTQ community, unfortunately there are a number of people who would rather spend the month spewing hateful rhetoric.

If you’ve ever heard the malicious “God hates fags” line, it’s not true. It’s a lie. God doesn’t hate anyone. Read the Bible. My teeth clench in horror when I hear people who say they represent the God I believe in spouting hateful lies. But, no matter what you believe about God, the reality is you can’t impose your own religious standards on those who don’t don’t believe what you believe — especially when it comes to government.

The First Amendment to our Constitution guarantees the freedom of religion. Freedom of religion also means freedom from religion — the freedom not to be forced to adhere to or follow a religious path you haven’t chosen. So when lawmakers use the Bible to justify legislation, it’s a clear crossover of the boundary between church and state. All Americans aren’t Christian, so the laws that govern us should not be guided by that particular religious system of beliefs.

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Memphis Pride Parade

But let’s pause for just one second and pretend this country was governed in a true Christian way. We would not be intolerant, hateful, or speaking ill of those we don’t know. We would welcome immigrants, feed the poor, care for widows, and most importantly, love our neighbors — all of our neighbors.

Unpause: That is not the case. However, we do live in a country that guarantees liberty and justice for all. All means all.

The LGBTQ community matters. Their access to human rights matters. Their safety matters. Their dignity matters. Their lives matter. Because at the end of the day, no matter how one identifies, gender-wise, or who they love, they’re human.

I believe people should stand up for what they believe in, except to the point at which they are just being a bully. As my mom always used to tell me, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say it at all.”

It’s crucial that people learn to respect even what they don’t understand. Be curious, not judgmental.

And we need legislation to help with that.

There are very few state laws in place that protect the rights of the LGBTQ community, guaranteeing they have the freedoms, access, rights, and privileges of every other Tennessean. Currently, in Tennessee, there are no laws that prohibit housing, private employment, or education discrimination based on gender identity or sexual orientation. Neither are there laws to address school bullying or harassment related to students’ sexual orientation and gender identity.

Tennessee doesn’t require public accommodations based on orientation and gender identity, nor does it ban or restrict conversion therapy, the discredited pseudoscientific practice of attempting to change a person’s sexual orientation or gender identity. The state doesn’t have laws or policies in place that facilitate a gender marker change on driver’s licenses and birth certificates.

Finally, and possibly the most damning of all, is the fact that Tennessee does not ban insurance exclusions for transgender health care or include transgender health care in health benefits to state employees.

During the recent session of the Tennessee General Assembly, GOP legislators introduced a number of anti-LGBTQ bills. The most glaring — HB 1369 or Tennessee Natural Marriage Defense Act — would have limited the definition of marriage to “natural marriage” between a man and a woman. The regressive measure was an attempt to void the U.S. Supreme Court’s 2015 Obergefell v. Hodges decision that requires states to recognize same-sex marriages.

The draft of the bill states that the act was an effort to resist an unlawful federal court order. The bill compares the Obergefell decision to the Fugitive Slave Act of 1850. These lawmakers had the audacity to compare its intolerant views of gay marriage to Wisconsin’s 1854 rejection of the Slave Act, due to its unconstitutionality. So gay marriage apparently is just as unconstitutional as returning slaves to their masters.

Thankfully, the bill didn’t get too far. Still, if this is where we are in 2019, we have a long way to go before our LGBTQ friends and neighbors feel safe, secure, and welcomed. We have a long way to go before they can know they won’t be denied a basic right because of who they are.

It’s not right. It’s unfair and unconstitutional. And this is a conversation we need to be having all year ’round, not just for one month. Because all human lives matter, this conversation matters.

Maya Smith is a Flyer staff writer.

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News The Fly-By

Goodbye Gary

Each June since 1993, the Memphis gay community has held a gay pride parade. But the parade was almost a no-go in 2004 when Memphis Pride, the group that organized the annual celebration, dissolved.

That’s when Gary Wilkerson stepped in. In only six weeks, Wilkerson managed to put together a new group, Mid-South Pride, and organized a successful parade down Cooper Street.

Wilkerson, 45, died September 28th at Saint Francis Hospital after suffering a series of strokes.

“He wasn’t feeling well in May, but he refused to go to the doctor because he didn’t want it to interfere with his commitments to this year’s Pride event,” says Kent Hamson, Wilkerson’s partner of eight years. “He was afraid he’d be put in the hospital and have to miss Pride.”

Such commitment was typical of Wilkerson. Elizabeth Wilkerson, Gary’s mother, says he began donating all his extra money to the Make-a-Wish Foundation when he was a teenager.

He even cancelled his post-high school graduation plans to help raise his younger brother and sister after his father died in 1979.

“We made it all those years, and we didn’t lose a thing. That’s because Gary stepped in and took over. He loved his family,” Elizabeth Wilkerson says.

Gary and his mother began working with HIV/AIDS victims through the Aid to End AIDS Committee (now known as Friends for Life) in the 1980s.

“He and his mother cared for close to a thousand people who had no one else to take care of them,” Hamson says. “He would literally hold these people in his arms when they died.”

Wilkerson worked as a computer technician and was an active member of Holy Trinity Community Church. It was through his connection with his church that he ended up spearheading Mid-South Pride.

“He’d been calling Memphis Pride [in 2004] to make sure Holy Trinity could get booth space [at the Pride festival],” Hamson says. “When he didn’t get a response, he started talking to other people, and they’d all had the same experience. Somebody suggested starting a new organization, and Gary said he was willing to do it.”

Wilkerson became president, and a board of directors was formed. In a matter of weeks, they had a parade permit, street closure, and insurance for the event.

“Gary is one of the main reasons that Mid-South Pride has such a good relationship with the police department, the park commission, and the permit bureaus,” says Vincent Astor, a member of the group’s board.

Astor says they are creating a 100-foot flag to be carried in next year’s Pride parade in Wilkerson’s honor.

“Gary was very passionate about people having the same rights as everybody else,” says board member Edie Love. “And he was so outgoing. He could talk to anybody. He seemed fearless to me.”