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Fundraiser to Benefit LGBTQ Youth Housing Project

In December, the Memphis Gay & Lesbian Community Center (MGLCC) announced an ambitious plan to house the city’s LGBTQ homeless youth in temporary shelters fashioned from shipping containers.

“We’re going alter the containers by adding windows and doors and making them into individual living spaces with a bedroom and a bathroom,” said MGLCC Youth Services Manager Stephanie Reyes. “And we’ll have an administration building there with a classroom, where we’ll teach classes on writing a resume, nutrition, and life skills.”

Greg Utterback, who lives out of state and has only visited MGLCC one time, gave the center the funds to purchase property in Orange Mound from the Shelby County Land Bank. The shipping containers will be set up on that land, but MGLCC is still looking for donors to fund the program, which they’ve dubbed the Metamorphosis Project.

On Sunday, February 21st, they’re having their first major fundraising event for the project. The party will be held at the Hilton Memphis (939 Ridge Lake Blvd) at 4 p.m. and will feature live music by Alex da Ponte. There will be a live auction to purchase items that will be used in the housing project. Tickets to the fundraiser are $40 for singles or $75 for couples. For more information, see the event’s Facebook page.

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Gay & Lesbian Community Center Launches Homeless Youth Count

On a national scale, around 40 percent of homeless youth identify as lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender (LGBT), according to the United States Interagency Council on Homelessness.

The Memphis Gay and Lesbian Community Center (MGLCC) set out last weekend to find out how many local LGBT youth are homeless. Through its first annual Youth Count, volunteers stationed across the city surveyed teens and young adults about their housing situations and their sexual orientation and gender identity.

The exact number of homeless youth identified from the point-in-time count wasn’t yet available at press time, but the MGLCC could confim that they surveyed more than 100 youth.

“This is us trying to figure out how we get our kids off the street,” said Will Batts, executive director of the MGLCC. “It’s not safe for them to be on the street. It’s not healthy. It’s not good for their long-term outcomes. To do that, we need to know how many of them are there at any one time.”

Batts said the center is working on a permanent solution to help LGBT homeless youth ages 18 to 25, but he said the center won’t announce specifics until December. He said homeless LGBT teens and young adults in Memphis who have aged out of the foster care system have few options.

“We don’t refer kids to the shelters anymore because so many kids have reported being sexually assaulted or having their things stolen. A couple kids have said they fell asleep in the shelter with their arms wrapped around their belongings and woke up with them gone,” Batts said. “There’s nothing safe about those places for young people. They’re not safe for skinny little gay kids, and they’re certainly not safe for trans kids.”

Because the shelters have a reputation as unsafe places for LGBT youth, Batts said many turn to other options, some of which may dangerous or illegal.

“Some kids will turn to couch-surfing if it’s available. But others adapt survival techniques of selling themselves to get money to eat. An 18-year-old kid should not have to do that to survive,” Batts said.

Stephanie Reyes, MGLCC’s youth services and volunteer manager, said the center started their Youth Count by surveying those who showed up at the center’s weekly Gen Q youth group for LGBT young adults on Friday. On Saturday, volunteers set up tables at various locations around town where youth might hang out — Tobey Skate Park, the Central Library, Social Suds laundromat in South Memphis, etc. — and surveyed any young people who appeared to be under the age of 25.

The survey asks questions about sexual orientation and homelessness, so some surveyed likely weren’t the target population.

“We don’t want to stigmatize the kids and say, hey, ‘You look queer, come fill this out,'” Batts said. “They just wanted anybody under 25 to fill it out, and then they’ll pull out the ones that identify as LGBT.”

Reyes says she hopes having some solid numbers will help them raise funds for the center’s goal of housing LGBT homeless youth. For now, she says when homeless youth come to the center, she can provide food, clothing, and help with resumes, but she has no options for shelter.

“There are no shelters in Memphis that advertise that they are LGBT-friendly. Most are faith-based, and I don’t know of any that are, like, ‘Bring on the trans kids,'” Reyes said. “If you have an 18-year-old who has aged out of foster care, and they come to the center and tell us they’re homeless and ask what they can do, all I can say is go to the Union Mission and don’t tell anyone that you’re gay.”

In a separate MGLCC project, Reyes is launching a survey of emergency homeless shelters to determine which would like help in becoming more LGBT-friendly.

“It may be a case where the shelter may not be against this community, but they may not know how to serve them properly or be respectful in their questions. We want to find out who has had sensitivity trainings or who has an intake form that asks your identity instead of just male and female sex,” Reyes said.

Several years ago, the MGLCC launched a foster program that paired homeless LGBT youth with volunteers willing to temporarily open their homes. But that program is no longer in place.

“Some of the kids had more serious issues than most people could deal with. There are mental health issues and legal issues,” Batts said.

He said the center’s future efforts to house homeless youth will include wraparound services for legal, medical, and mental health needs.

“We make up less than 10 percent of the population, but up to 40 percent of homeless kids identify as LGBT. I saw a report today that said 40 percent of girls in juvenile detention facilities identify as LGBT,” Batts said. “Our community is overrepresented in homelessness and incarceration and abuse. But it’s not because we’re bad people. It’s because there’s a society that has told us that we are bad and disordered, and that wears on people. It creates a really unhealthy environment for young people.”

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OUTbid Fund-raiser for MGLCC

Booze and schmooze for a good cause this weekend at the fourth annual OUTbid.

The fund-raiser auction benefits the Memphis Gay and Lesbian Community Center (MGLCC) and features both silent and live auction events. Auction items include a basketball signed by Jason Collins (the first out gay player in the NBA), a chocolate tasting at Phillip Ashley Chocolates, a scotch tasting for six people, and a dinner extravaganza with food from Restaurant Iris and wine pairings from Michael Hughes from Joe’s Wines and Liquors, among others.

There will also be food, cocktails, and live jazz by The Randy Ballard Jazz Collective. The event will be held on Saturday, June 13th at Clark Opera Memphis Center (6745 Wolf River Parkway). Doors open at 6:30 p.m. The silent auction begins at 6:45 p.m., and the live auction starts at 7:30 p.m. 

Tickets are $50 for singles, $90 for couples, or $320 for a table of eight. For more information, go here.

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Same-Sex Domestic Violence Numbers Are Up in Tennessee

Overall domestic violence numbers dropped by four percent in Tennessee since 2008, according to the latest Tennessee Bureau of Investigation (TBI) numbers. But for same-sex couples, those numbers actually saw a 44 percent increase since then.

That may not actually reflect an increase in incidents but rather an increase in reporting due to changing attitudes by the general public about homosexuality, said Phillis Lewis, a witness coordinator for the Shelby County District Attorney’s office’s domestic violence unit.

“I think people have become more comfortable reporting,” Lewis said. “I think before people were afraid of letting officers know their status and that [the perpetrator] is their significant other.”

In 2012, Lewis started the “Love Doesn’t Hurt” fund, which provides emergency funding to same-sex domestic violence victims. The money can be used to help victims with anything from housing and relocation to food and gas.

“In the first case we dealt with, the person had completely left the home and needed somewhere to go,” Lewis said. “We housed that person in a hotel for a week, and then they decided they wanted to leave Memphis. So we helped that person get out of town. We want them safe from violence. The last thing we need is another homicide.”

They also collect hygiene products to hand out to victims.

“When you’re running from your wife, you’re not going to think about grabbing some deodorant,” Lewis said.

When she started the fund two years ago, Lewis had begun noticing an increase in reported cases. But she said there was nowhere she felt comfortable sending LGBT victims for help.

“A lot of the agencies [that deal with domestic violence] are faith-based, and I sent one client to a place where, instead of focusing on the trauma she’d been through, they were focusing on her sexual orientation,” Lewis said.

Enter the Family Safety Center of Memphis and Shelby County. The one-stop shop for domestic violence victims opened in 2012, and various agencies that assist victims, such as the Shelby County Crime Victims Center and the Mid-South Sexual Assault Resource Center, are now located in one building on Madison.

The center’s executive director Oliette Drobot-Murry said she has worked to make sure the Family Safety Center is LGBT-friendly. Her staff has trained with the Tennessee Equality Project, and they partner with the Memphis Gay & Lesbian Community Center (MGLCC) and HIV/AIDS nonprofit, the Red Door Foundation.

“We go to [Mid-South] Pride, and we sponsor Red Door events. And now through word of mouth, we’ve had more LGBT folks coming through here,” Drobot-Murry said.

The Family Safety Center is now in charge of doling out money from the “Love Doesn’t Hurt” fund on a case-by-case basis to same-sex victims who file reports there. Although the fund is primarily raised at an annual benefit each March, Lewis said anyone can donate to the fund at any time by sending a check to the Family Safety Center and specifying that the donation should go into the “Love Doesn’t Hurt” fund.

To help prevent same-sex domestic violence, the MGLCC hosts a twice-monthly support group called Cultivating Priorities in Relationships to help people identify toxic relationships.

“I thought we should call it something other than a support group for victims because that scares people,” said Martavius Hampton, MGLCC’s HIV Services Manager. “We promote it as a healthy relationship group, so it’s like prevention rather than waiting on something to happen. We talk about what’s a positive partner and what’s abusive and controlling.”