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Memphis Gaydar News

Interim President Chosen for MGLCC Board

Elokin CaPece has been named to finish out the term of former Memphis Gay and Lesbian Community Center (MGLCC) board president Heidi Williams. CaPece, who was previously serving as vice-president of programs, will serve in the role of president until the term expires next July.

Elokin CaPece

  • Elokin CaPece

Williams’ resignation was announced last Friday. In a letter sent out through MGLCC’s email newsletter, Williams said that after having served four months in office, she was unable to continue fulfilling her duties due to time constraints.

Said Williams’ letter: “My resignation should be viewed solely as a consequence of my own time constraints. I apologize to the board for my failure to fulfill the last eight months of my term. However, life happens, and when you do not take care of yourself, you are unable to be an effective leader. I feel that being an ineffective leader for MGLCC would be more detrimental to the organization than my resignation. MGLCC was doing great prior to my becoming president and they will continue to be an amazing community center.”

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Style Sessions We Recommend

Back to Black

This week, Americans young and old will celebrate my favorite holiday in November: Black Friday.

Sure, Thanksgiving has its high points: spending time with family, giving thanks for your blessings, watching everyone jump a little as you lower the turkey into the fryer and a little oil spits out and threatens to burn the whole place down.

But if Thanksgiving is a time for reflection and mediation (and sleeping, I cannot forget the sleeping), Black Friday is a time of energy and excitement. It’s a time of deals and bargains (I noticed even Target is getting into door-busters this year). It’s a time of adventure. Plus, People of Walmart should get plenty of new material.

Closer to Style Sessions’ little heart are the locals, and even they’re celebrating this year.

Eye-Con, located on Union Avenue, is having an All Black event on Black Friday — 30 percent off anything and everything in black. How fun!

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Over at Lansky 126 inside the Peabody, former Memphian Rebecca Belz will be debuting her latest Becca Belz jewelry collection from 3 to 7 p.m. Friday afternoon.

Her signature pieces include chains, stones, and clustered pearls and can be worn with jeans or with a cocktail dress.

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Bianca Knows Best …

and Helps a Woman Who Wants to Keep It Casual.

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Opinion

Bianca Knows Best … and Helps a Woman Who Wants to Keep It Casual

Dear Bianca,

I’ve been seeing a guy for a couple of months now, but we’ve only gone on four dates. I like him but I recently got out of a long-term relationship, so I’m looking to take things slowly.

On our most recent date, after I kissed him goodbye, he asked, “So where do you see this relationship going?”

Honestly, I don’t know where our relationship is going because it’s way too soon for me to tell, so I wasn’t sure how to answer. I told him “time will tell” and made a beeline for the door. It seems to me that this guy wants more out of a relationship at this time than I do. I don’t want to stop dating him, but I’m not ready to commit. What should I do?

— Cold Feet

Dear Cold Feet,

If this guy asked you if he could move in after the fourth date, that would be a huge problem. But asking where a relationship is going after a few dates is a perfectly reasonable question. It sounds like you’ve just got some serious commitment issues.

If you really like the guy, don’t shy away from his interest in you. Give him a chance, but set some boundaries. Let him know how you feel about serious relationships at this time in your life. Tell him you just got out of a long relationship, and you’d rather not be tied down right now. Ask him if he’s willing to continue dating in an uncommitted, casual way. Since he did the asking, the ball is in your court as to where the relationship will go.

It’s possible that the guy asked about the relationship status because he’s not interested in being tied down either. Maybe he was afraid you were becoming too interested in him, too quickly. Even if that’s not the vibe you’ve been putting off, keep in mind that many guys aren’t too adept at reading signals (sorry guys, but it’s true).

Either way, a simple inquiry into the status of your relationship is no reason to break things off. Let him know where you see it going and move forward. If he gets pushy later, then you can feel more justified in breaking things off.

Got a problem? E-mail Bianca at bphillips@memphisflyer.com.

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Sports Tiger Blue

Memphis Tigers vs. Central Arkansas (FEF, 7 pm)

Alert, Tiger Nation: the U of M has never beaten tonight’s opponent. Of course, in 1924, UCA was known as Arkansas Normal when they beat West Tennessee State Normal School, 25-11. Then in 1940 it was Arkansas Teachers College 38, West Tennessee State Teachers College 29.

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Well you can throw those losses out, Tiger fans! And count on considerably more offense tonight when Memphis looks to build its first winning streak of the young season. The Bears, it should be noted, lost to Tennessee Tech (last Friday’s Tiger opponent), 71-67, on November 16th. They lost to Kansas on November 19th by the tidy score of 94-44. Members of the Southland Conference, Central Arkansas went 10-19 last season.

• After the win over Tennessee Tech, I asked Tiger center Will Coleman about the secret to staying out of foul trouble. “Getting extra time with the coaching staff helps a lot,” he said. “It’s important to stay sound and disciplined. I have to time shots as it leaves a player’s hand, and be quick enough to get to the ball. It’s about being sound and watching the ball.”

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Griz Knock Off Kings, 116-105

Don’t look now, Chris Herrington says, but the Grizzlies are starting to look like a basketball team.

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Food & Drink Hungry Memphis

A Very Organic Holiday Meal

Butter, cranberries, and turkey from West Wind

  • Simone Wilson
  • Butter, cranberries, and turkey from West Wind

“They’re very affectionate animals,” says Kimberly Cole of her pasture-raised turkeys.

Cole, with her husband Ralph, owns West Wind Farms, a certified-organic livestock farm in Morgan County, Tennessee, about two hours east of Nashville. She estimates the farm delivered 1,000 fresh turkeys for this upcoming Thanksgiving.

It’s too late to order a turkey for Thursday, but there’s plenty of time for Christmas.

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Politics Politics Beat Blog

On an Acorn Fallen Pretty Far From the Tree

Wade Rathke

  • Wade Rathke

Life is full of surprises. I have followed the right wing’s recent propaganda war against ACORN (Association of Community Organizations for Reform Now) only casually and more sympathetically for ACORN than not.

I recall being holed up in a Little Rock hotel late one night in 1982 while I was working on an Arkansas political campaign and listening to a meeting of the group transpire either overhead or in an adjoining room. In whichever case, it was like I was right there, hearing every voice as a passionate argument went on between ACORN field reps over the best recruiting strategies to pursue in Arkansas.

What I recall most, beside the aforesaid passion, was the absolute sincerity and sense of commitment, even zeal, of the participants for doing something about the living conditions of the poor and powerless. That leaked through the partition, and, though it eventually became a drone that I went to sleep by, I was not unimpressed.

Well, here I was Monday morning looking at an email from the Tennessee Republican Party (being in the business, as it were, I’m on everybody’s send list) noting that one Wade Rathke was due to speak at the University of Memphis that night.

He was identified as ACORN’s co-founder and taken to task by the anonymous GOP scribe for concealing the embarrassing fact that his brother had embezzled almost $1 million from the group — a circumstance that supposedly prompted Rathke to resign from ACORN only last month.

I gather that the point of the email was to entice Republicans to go heckle Rathke or, at the very least, to monitor his activities. For myself, remembering the intensity and righteous energy I’d overheard in that Arkansas hotel way back when, I thought I would go give the ACORN man a fair hearing if circumstances permitted.

Later in the day, though, I got another email alerting me to an entry in the aforesaid Rathke’s personal blog. (Like I said, I’m in the business.)

Discussing a meeting sometime Sunday with “twenty community leaders” here in Memphis, Rathke went on to deal with a recent controversy involving developer Harold Buehler’s ultimately successful application, under a federal program, to acquire 140 vacant lots to develop rental property on.

Said Rathke: “I found a squib by Jackson Baker in something called the ‘political beat’ in the Memphis Flyer. Despite Baker’s bias in favor of Buehler and his contempt for Commissioner Henri Brooks, and anyone who opposes this project, his piece does confirm the facts behind the minister’s disgust and my new friends’ revulsion at this action.”

Whereupon he went on to quote several paragraphs from my coverage of a commission meeting, and, sure enough, those paragraphs could be used to support criticism of Buehler’s project. Or mayhap to support the project, for that matter. Or whatever one chose to think, really, since all I was aiming to do was, as Rathke would put it, to “confirm the facts” behind the controversy. Not to argue them one way or the other.

I own up to contributing “squibs” on a regular basis to “something called the ‘political beat’ in the Memphis Flyer” (that would be online) and to something else called “Politics” in the print edition of the Flyer. I disclaim, however, any “bias in favor of Buehler” and, most certainly, any “contempt for Commissioner Henri Brooks, and anyone who opposes this project.” Au contraire. I confess to a regard for several opponents of the project, and a genuine respect for Commissioner Brooks, especially for her determination to go it alone if need be on behalf of causes she holds dear. (Title VI of the 1964 Civil Rights Act never had a more dedicated watchdog.)

What I have “contempt” for is someone who rolls into town and, on the basis of a single ex parte conversation and a hasty skimming (and misreading) of one article, becomes an instant authority on people, places, and things he knows not of. For the record, Rathke should know that most of the certifiable progressives on the commission, those who would be expected to underwrite the goals of organizations like, say, ACORN, voted with Buehler. Rightly or wrongly.

On the evidence of Mr. Rathke’s capacity for blatant prejudgment, I find myself at least leaning to the notion that the conscientious members of ACORN might be well rid of him, whatever his contributions of the past. And that’s the end of this squib.

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Beyond the Arc Sports

Grizzlies 116, Kings 105 Post-Game Three-Pointer

1. A Team Emerging: Don’t look now, but the Grizzlies are starting to look like a real basketball team. With a convincing win tonight, the team has won four of its past five and, at 5-9, is only a few tantalizing possessions away from being 7-7. They aren’t that far from being a decent team (which makes the boneheaded way they rounded out the roster at the end of the summer even more depressing, but I’ve bemoaned that too much lately already) and aren’t that far from being a fun team to watch, though a 1-8 start and the Iverson debacle have guaranteed that it’ll be hard to get people to notice.

Tonight was a quality team win, with all five starters in double figures, good contributions from the bench, and six players with two or more assists. And an identity is emerging: One of the league’s most rugged yet skilled post tandems (Marc Gasol and Zach Randolph) as a focal point, flanked by a couple of dynamic perimeter scorers (Rudy Gay and O.J. Mayo), with young, hustling, defensive-oriented role players (Sam Young, DeMarre Carroll, hopefully Darrell Arthur later) off the bench. If the team can straighten out its point guard play (more on this in a bit) and mold top pick Hasheem Thabeet into an every-night contributor — neither an easy task right now — this team will start to make a lot of sense.

I know that teams built around dominant individual stars usually win big, but I have a long personal history of rooting for balanced teams (Bad Boys Pistons, Pippen/Sheed Blazers, Miller/Smits Pacers, Webber/Divac Kings, etc.) against superstars. I can get behind a team that has four players averaging between 15 and 22 points and looks like it’s starting to grow some backbone. The question now is whether this progress can survive the five-game West Coast road trip the team embarked after tonight’s game.